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loving your body as it is

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Fat. Skinny. Young. Old. Hairy. Wrinkly. What if you could love your body right now, as it is, without changing a thing?

Growing up, I was one of the tallest kids in my class. I learned to slouch, to make myself smaller so I’d take up less space. Later on, in my dating career I pursued people who were thin because that’s what I’d been told was attractive. They either rejected me or, if we did hook up, I worried I would break them. No one was having a good time, (…continue reading)

pleasure heals – part 2

In pleasure heals – part 1 I talked about how stress, anxiety, and general suffering isn’t good for us. Duh! And, now that science is catching up, we’re learning that pleasure IS. Also duh! Your body already knows this, but your mind has probably soaked in all kinds of lies about pleasure, so let me tell your mind a new story. Pleasure can reduce our risk of heart attacks, as well as our heart rate and blood pressure. It boosts our immune system, lengthens our lifespans and helps us think and perform far more creatively and efficiently. It makes us (…continue reading)

pleasure heals – part 1

I caught myself the other day in a pleasure denial loop. Again! Whether I was doing the dishes, doing some writing or doing my partner, I kept finding ways to deny myself pleasure in the process.

It’s so aggravating – here I am, a freakin’ Sex and Intimacy Coach, and I won’t let the pleasure in. Rrrrrrrrr.

In those times it feels like everything else is more important – marketing, paying the bills, prepping for workshops, processing my relationship, personal healing… not only do these things seem more important, it seems important somehow that they be work, and that I (…continue reading)

why i’m a sex coach

You’d think, if I was trying to change the world – and I am – that I’d choose something more serious than, y’know, coaching people about sex. I could be helping people transform their lives or become enlightened. I could be saving the earth, empowering women, dismantling systems of oppression.

At first glance, sex might not seem all that serious or important. Why?

Because sex is adult play. Because it happens in the body. Because it’s private and nobody talks about it. Fascinating that we might think these things are not important! Let’s take a look at each of these (…continue reading)

book review: the pleasure prescription

★★★★★

When a book uses phrases like “the seventh sense,” ”the third path” and “rational hedonism” it’s got my attention. This book, The Pleasure Prescription by Paul Pearsall, certainly got mine, and in a most unusual way.

At this point, my bookshelves are overflowing with books on sex and intimacy – many of which I have yet to read! Sex, relatonships, intimacy, these are hot topics nowadays and everyone’s got something to say about them… even if what they say isn’t worth listening to. Which is all to say, when I’ve got multiple shelves worth of books to catch (…continue reading)